Structure Your Life Around Moments Of Joy

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Quite an unexpected topic/lesson this week.

I usually write about some strategy that I implemented and how it succeeded or failed, or some lesson I learned throughout the week.

This week, however, is a bit more introspective…

The Importance Of Joy

What is your work for?

Is it to make money? For fame? Influence?

I’d suggest that any of those external, monetary, or “vanity” type measurements fall short to give us what we really are after: Joy.

I define joy as a combination of happiness and fulfillment.

It’s happiness squared. A deeper, more visceral feeling.The more JOY we can experience in our life, the better our life will be

There were two very specific moments of JOY for me recently:

A Sunset

The other night, I was taking out the trash and caught the sunset.

Now, sunset pictures from a phone never really do it justice. But in that moment, I stopped, and took a deep breath, and realized how good it felt to be outside, in perfect weather, catching this fleeting moment that will never ever exist in the same way.

I couldn’t help but smile, and feel a deep sense of gratitude and joy.

A Soccer Game

The second time was watching my son play in his soccer game. They’d had an incredible, undefeated season, and in the next half of the season they’re going to move up a tier in their division because they’re “too good”.

(Their average score for the season was 8-1)

Hearing the coach say this, and seeing how hard my son and his team had worked, made the game that much more exciting to watch.

And then, in the second half, my son scored a goal.

He’s not much of a goal scorer. He’s much more suited to the midfield positions where the strengths are in seeing the field, making the passes, and getting the ball to the forwards who have much better footwork and confidence in shooting.

But the cross came. My son was in perfect position. He connected with the ball perfectly and placed it into the upper left corner of the goal.

The keeper never had a chance.

It was a perfect moment, followed by one of the most pure moments of celebration I’d seen from him. The team cheered – he rarely scores, so it was a big deal for everyone.

Now – what’s missing in these two moments?

Neither of them are about business…

The two most joyous moments of my life in the last two weeks had nothing to do with revenue, marketing, sales, clients, products, or the like.

I take a lot of pride in my work. But it’s not my greatest source of joy.

With that realization, I had to reflect on what my business was actually for.

Yes, I want to reach as many people as possible. Yes, I want to provide a good life for my family and me.

But if I chose to spend more time in my business, optimizing for reach or revenue, I’d miss out completely on these moments of joy.

If you work until late into the night, you’ll miss the sunsets.

Working on weekends, and you’ll miss the games.

Life isn’t about building the biggest best business and getting results.

Life isn’t life without these moments of joy.

So, I asked myself, how can I structure my life to create more of these moments?

Again, not what I was expecting to take away from this week.

Where Does Your Joy Come From?

Does your deepest moments of joy, happiness, gratitude, fulfillment come from your work? Your family? Being outdoors? Working out?

Whatever it is, the more that you can structure your life around having these moments on a daily basis, the better your quality of life.

What’s one thing that brings you an insane amount of joy? Can you make room for that to happen today? This week?

Without a sense of joy and gratitude in our lives on a regular basis, it’s near impossible to share those emotions with others in your work.

Bring more joy into your lives, and you can then share more with those you seek to serve with your business.

Want to learn more about finding joy in your creative life? Check out my course Make Something on Craftsman Creative.

The first few modules talk about 6 Human Needs Psychology, which really means how to find joy and fulfillment in your life and work.

The 60 Days Project

Introducing a new written project aimed at helping artists, creatives, and small business owners to get prepared for the winter and the new year.

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Photo by Kaitlyn Baker on Unsplash

Toward the end of October 2020 I listened to the most recent conversation between Seth Godin and Tim Ferriss on Tim’s show.

From that conversation, I had one of the clearest moments in my creative career – an idea for a project that fit the framework Seth laid out in the conversation:

  • A “generous” project, one that benefited others more than it benefitted me
  • That I would do “even if it would fail” to meet my own monetary goals
  • That had a set of constraints that would help me reach the outcome
  • And incorporated a little bit of “magic” – the creation of tension for the reader.

Deciding On A Creative Project

What I decided was the 60-day project.

One email/blog per day. 1,000 words or less. Each on a topic or principle that would help the audience – that’s you – to get what it is I think you really want for yourself and your business:

What we really want, [as creatives], is to have control over our financial security, agency and independence, and predictability in times of chaos and uncertainty

Shawn Twing – Tiny Little Businesses

We may say that we want to “start a business” or even “make money with our art”. What we’re really saying is what I just wrote above.

We want control. Certainty. Freedom.

If that’s you, then I’m glad you’re here. Over the next two months – every day until December 31, 2020, I’m going to write everything I know about how to get control over your creative life and business.

Why? Because this year has been really hard on artists, creatives, and small business owners. Really hard.

Rather than add to the downward spiral that is the year 2020, I’d rather contribute to making it a positive time. A time of growth and progress and certainty and joy.

This is one way I know I can do that.

Join Me On This Creative Journey

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I’m excited to join you on your creative journey.

Daren